How to Make Goals you will Actually Achieve

Have you ever been so down in the dumps and down on your self that the light of the world just seemed so impossibly far away? I think we’ve all been there a few times in our life. I’ve been there a few times, and I am so happy I was. No, I didn’t enjoy the depressing unfortunate circumstances at the time, but in those times is when I felt most lost and alone and cried out to God. In those times he came to my rescue and lifted me up back into the light and changed my course, the plan I had for my life, and turned it into something better; I am very thankful for that.

In one of these life changing moments is when God revealed to me that his plan for my life is far better than my best plan could ever be. That his ways were so much more significant than I could ever imagine.

I had a turning point when God gave me the revelation that even though I had failed a 100 times at a fitness and healthy lifestyle stand point, God had put that in my plan. Looking back at all my frustrations of failed attempts to become healthier and stronger, I realized my motivations for doing so where not in the right place. I wanted to be healthier and stronger to look better or win a competition or win the approval of others. While improving your body’s health and image is not wrong in and of itself, wrong motives can make it wrong.

I thought that looking better would make me better or looking good would make me good enough.

It’s no wonder why all of my attempts had failed. I had a faulty sense of reality and a poor sense of judgement. while I can say these things looking back now, it wasn’t apparent to me back then. I thought I had good goals and was deeply upset when I didn’t reach them because I thought that meant I wasn’t good enough.

All of this thankfully was in Gods plan for my life. Had I not failed so many times, I would have never caught a glimpse of my blind spot.

You cannot earn your worth,reputation or status of “good enough” with God.

He already in himself is good, and makes you good by living inside of you.

Without accepting Jesus Christ and believing that his death saved everyone, including you and me, we will always be striving to be “good enough” in other peoples eyes.

We are forgiven of our sins through Jesus dying on the cross in place of us, because of this sacrifice we can have a relationship with God, being holy, worthy and blameless before him. Accepting this sacrifice places the holy spirit directly in us. We become and posses everything that God is, whether we utilize and believe it or not. Because God is good, we become good; because God is holy, we become holy; because God is righteous, we become righteous. This isn’t to say we will do everything perfect, will never sin and everything will be great on earth for us, that is definitely not the case, but regardless of our circumstances around us, we have the perfect one living inside of us.

With this revelation in mind I have learned to discern my motives for everything I do. I don’t need to exercise and diet to look in shape to be good enough, I need exercise to become strong so when God has a new plan for my life I can be ready. If God calls me to become a mother, I’ll have enough core strength and health to get me through pregnancy. If God calls me to go on a mission trip in a different country where I need to navigate rough terrain, I’ll be ready. If God calls me to help my husband build or fix something around our house, I’ll have enough strength to hold whatever heavy object he needs me to or when I need to shovel something out of the chicken coop, I’ll have enough grip and upper body strength to maneuver the shovel.

I don’t need to eat healthy to lose a bunch of weight to see abs to look like so and so, because they are good enough. I need to eat healthy to get rid of pain in my body and have energy to do what God is calling me to do.

  • God will never help us be like another person.
  • Looking or being like someone else that we think is good enough, does not make us good enough.
  • Only faith in God can make us complete.

Making goals is not bad, but a bad motivation leads to failure. Good goals have good motives.

Goal: Become stronger through exercise, and healthier through eating healthy food

Bad motive: Because I want to look like so and so; then ill be happy; they have it all together and people will look up to me because I’ll be good enough/strong enough.

Good motive: I want to take care of the temple God has given me and entrusted me with. I want to be physically capable and ready to do whatever God has in his plan for me.

“You realize, don’t you, that you are the temple of God, and God himself is present in you? No one will get by with vandalizing God’s temple, you can be sure of that. God’s temple is sacred—and you, remember, are the temple.” 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 {MSG}

Maybe your goals and motives look different from mine, but any goal with bad motives is destined to fail. Following is a description that I’ve used to check my motives. Although this is in number format with an easy to do list style, it doesn’t happen overnight and sometimes it’s not in a straight line. It’s taken me about 3 years to really learn this. Figuring out that I had a faulty motivation and belief system was a stepping stone, So I hope this helps you too.


How to Develop Motives that Lead to Successful Goals

  1. Determine what goals you have in your mind.

What are some things you’ve been striving for or think about often? What do you constantly wish you had or were, whether you’ve consciously set this as your goal or not, what you think about or want to be or wish you were most often is what your pursuing in your life.

  1. Think about why you want it. Do you want to lose weight? Why?

Because you want to have more energy to devote to your family? Because you want to get your health back to serve your community?

Or

Because if you lose weight you’ll feel like a worthy person or being thin will make you happy or more secure?

*Don’t try to analyze good or bad motives yet, just honestly write down what you’re really thinking and feeling.

** You might never have thought about this before, so really think through why you are feeling what you are and what attracts you to that goal. For example, there was a particular magazine at the checkout lane at a store I was at the other day. The magazine had a featured article with a fitness trainer I admire. She is in great shape, a solider of love and cares for people. This magazine had a 10 page article that was filled with her advice and workout tips along with photos of her and exercises she designed. I had the magazine in tow ready to buy {not happy about the $5.99 price}. I looked through the pages one more time and said to myself why? My immediate HONEST response was I want to read this because maybe if I read the information she wrote and do the program that she wrote, I will look more like her {who is established, very fit,and who I thought was better than me}, thus I can be more like her. WHAT?! with that thought, I put the magazine down, and decided I wouldn’t chase after that idea. God has made me perfect just the way he created me to be, and he will instruct, teach, and train me to be better {more Christlike} if I’ll seek him, NOT if I read some article.

  1. Now think about your motivation. Is it true according to God’s word?

If you want to be thin because you will be happy then and only then, that is not the truth. God has already made us complete, worthy, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, loving and in his image, we are complete exactly where we are even when we are somewhere we are unhappy with. God has given us all his fruit of the spirit. you might say, oh I’m not patient, but that just means you’re not exercising it, God has already given it to you, you just need to develop it. If we start to think, being something or doing something will make us happy, that means we feel we are not complete as we are, which is not the truth. God has made us in his image complete, worthy and very good. Whether we exercise that belief right now or not, it is the truth.

*If it is not true to Gods word, find the scripture that says the truth and cling to that promise. Memorize and believe the promise. When you’re feeling incomplete, unable, or unworthy, declare your promise and know that your feelings of inadequacy may be there, but they are not the truth, only God’s word is.

  • “I am complete in Christ” Colossians 2:10
  • “I am created in the image of God” Genesis 1:27
  • “God stands at my side and gives me strength I need for today” 2 Timothy 4:17
  • “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” Psalm 135:14
  • “The Lord is my shepherd, I have everything I need” Psalm 23:1
  • “Before I was born, God knew me and approved of me” Jeremiah 1:5
  • “I have been accepted by Christ” Romans 15:7
  • “My body is a temple of the holy spirit, who dwells in me” 1 Corinthians 3:16, 6:19
  • “I am holy, chosen and blameless before God” Ephesians 1:4
  • “I have been set free in Christ” Galatians 5:1
  • “I am God’s and I matter to him. He calls me by my name.” Isiah 43:1
  • “I am a new creature in Christ” 2 Corinthians 5:17
  • “I am God’s workmanship, created to produce good works” Ephesians 2:10
  • “My new self is righteous and holy” Ephesians 4:22-24
  • “God loves me and has chosen me” 1 Thessalonians 1:4

*If it is true to Gods word, skip to number 5.

  1. Once you’ve learned who you are in Christ and the truth of your promise, revisit your goal. Think about how your goal can relate to you as a new person in Christ. How could you dedicate your goal to God?

Then,

  1. Pray about your goal and your motivation for it. God may revel to you that you need an entirely new goal, or maybe now you’re headed in the right direction. Trust God and he will tell you where to go with your desires and goals. He loves you, he wants to bless you, not for you to fail.
  1. Once you’ve established your goals, motives and who you are in Christ write everything down! When trials come, you can turn back to your what, who and why.
  1. Lastly, GO and DO. Pursue whatever goal God has given you.  When it is difficult remember his promises, trust and believe in him to provide for you and give you strength. Lean on him and not your own understanding and you will succeed!

“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33 {NLT}

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